Playing the "Baby Card"

So as you all know, I’m one of those “BabyHaters” that the bigwigs up in Washington are always warning you about. But the thing that a lot of people fail to understand is that it’s not the children I dislike, it’s the breeders that make them. Not parents — because parents actually take part in parenting their children, teaching them lessons, and so forth. Breeders are the ones who make the babies, but then don’t appear to give a crap about molding those kids into being productive members of society.

Parents will accept responsibility for their errors, and will teach their children to do the same. Breeders, however, will play the “baby card” and make it seem like nothing could possibly be their fault, either by the simple fact that they have made babies, or alternately because their special precious angel is the most innocent and wonderful creature on earth and can’t possibly be responsible for anything bad.

Here are two very different tales from work involving playing the “baby card”:

1. One of the bosses went to small claims court because our company (parking lot management) was being sued. The backstory: girl was driving daddy’s very expensive SUV in a very expensive part of town, was driving in our parking lot, and hit a concrete pier (around 3 feet in diameter, 3 feet high, used to hold a light pole or sign or something). This caused $7,000 in damage to daddy’s SUV. Two weeks later, daddy came home from his business trip and immediately filed suit against us, saying that clearly the pier was a hazard.

More detail came out in court. It was around 1 in the afternoon, so it wasn’t so dark that daughter couldn’t see the pier. She was running late for an appointment to get her hair and nails done, and was cutting through our parking lot (she didn’t actually even park there). She wasn’t following the bright white arrows painting on the ground — she just cut across to get to the salon. Bam, she hit the pier.

Daddy insisted on testifying in court, even though he was out of town at the time of the incident. What did he testify? He wanted to make sure everyone knew what a good girl his daughter was. He brought in her S.A.T. scores (perfect 1600) and her acceptance letter to Harvard. He also wanted the judge to know that even though his daughter owns a cell phone, and that he was not even in the same city at the time, that he knows his daughter is NOT the type who would talk on the cell phone while driving, so there was no way she could have been distracted.

Boss made some comments about this being a great chance for a lesson. The judge grabbed that and ran with it, and when she made her final summation and judgement, commented all about how this girl probably needed this as a chance to learn a little personal responsibility. How no matter how cute and good at test-taking you are, if you hit concrete with daddy’s car, it’s nobody’s fault but your own. Despite the facts that daddy’s precious angel couldn’t possibly be at fault because she’s going to Harvard, we won the case.

2. Since I’ve been hired, the other girl is working at catching up on violations letters. Our surface lots are all pay-before-you-park, so if you park your car and walk away without paying, instantly you’re hit with a $25 violation. I don’t think it will surprise you to hear that probably 70% of people who receive these violation notices don’t send in their payment, so then they get a letter. Of the ones who get the letter, probably another 70% dispute the violation with a story about how they didn’t see the payment sign / thought they could pay later / had some other excuse.

A letter came in from a man who’d parked down by the lake restaurants. This particular parking lot is shared by a group of restaurants, many of which are pretty darned expensive, and is one of our biggest violation lots. The gist of his letter was:

My wife and I were taking our grandbaby to Expensive Restaurant, and we parked in your lot. We all got out of the car and I was on my way to the payment box, when I heard a noise behind me. I turned around to see that my wife had tripped, and dropped the baby in a mud puddle, and fallen on top of the baby. The baby was crying and had soiled its diaper, so we picked it up and rushed it into the restaurant without even thinking of paying to park. We needed to get this baby indoors! And dry it off! And change its diaper! Then we ate our expensive meal and came back out, and found this $25 violation notice on our car! I don’t feel it’s right, because of the horrible thing that happened to the baby which distracted me so totally that I couldn’t pay to park, and had to go eat an expensive meal instead.

The letter was all, poor baby poor baby poor baby. They wanted to have this violation (which most likely cost much less than a single meal at the restaurant they went to) waived because babybabybaby. The boss let everyone in the office (there are five of us total, including the two bosses) read the letter, and asked us if we would waive it or not. He was very surprised that the 20-year-old girl said “don’t waive”, and I also said “don’t waive”. Other boss also said he wouldn’t waive it, which is why he gave the final decision to the more soft and generous boss. Despite our overwhelming don’t-waive vote, he went ahead and waived the violation fee.

Duran Duran Concert: 2005

I’m importing some old posts from an old blog. Even though I’m giving them their original dates, they may still feed out now. This post is from March 10, 2005.

The Duran Duran concert last night was just awesome.

Do newspapers still do concert reviews in the arts & entertainment section? I never understood why, since the concert is already over and done. It’s not like people are going to be able to read the review and say, “Let’s go see that concert!”

My friend Amanda and I started out with dinner, in which she took me to Claim Jumper. My goodness, those portions are huge. But I felt really skinny while walking through the restaurant to the restroom — there were a lot of very large people there to eat those very large portions. The food was pretty good, but I’d definitely want to be able to box half of it up and take it home to the fridge if I ever go again.

With time to kill, we went up to Everett and hit the Goodwill. I didn’t find anything good, but Amanda scored a couple of nice items. Then we moseyed over to the Everett Events Center, parked in a garage nearby, and headed in. They searched our purses on the way in — I figured I couldn’t bring a camera, but I think the guy was just looking for guns and knives. He didn’t ask to see what was in the binocular cases or anything.

We got overpriced stadium beers and stood in the corridor people-watching (alcohol wasn’t allowed in the seats, which sucked). I ran into two comedians I know, one of whom I was totally not surprised to see at the concert, knowing what a big 80s fan he is.

The opening band was an LA-based punk group called I Am A Robot or something like that. The guy sitting next to us said they’d been on Saturday Night Live recently, and were going for an 80s punk sound. I didn’t care for them — their music wasn’t my bag, and they severely lacked showmanship. Most of the band had a garage-band look, t-shirts and jeans and sneakers. Then the lead singer wore an ill-fitting suit straight out of the 80s (huge shoulder pads and tapered ankles) and took off his jacket at one point to reveal a tattered and torn t-shirt with a huge dollar sign on the front. The sleeves of the t-shirt had been cut mostly through, but were still connected to the shirt under the armpits, so it looked like two floppy goiters hanging underneath the guy’s arms. He may have been drunk, too, from the stumbling and saying of weird things between songs. They did 10 songs total. I remember one DD concert I went to, the opening act was The Cranberries. Now there was an opening act you could really sink your teeth into.

While the roadies moved the offending instruments off the stage and got it ready for Duran Duran, we chatted a little bit with the guy next to us. He was all, “When they were really big, I was like in kindergarten!” Nice. He said he thought they’d open with “The Reflex”. I told him no way, they were totally going to open with “Sunrise”. I thought about wagering cash. I should have. But I didn’t.

Duran Duran took the stage at 9:05, and played just over two hours. They were absolutely amazing — not only did everyone sound great, but they looked like they were having a fun time, too. Our seats were in the front row of the 2nd level, so we could sit and enjoy without anyone standing and dancing in front of us (though the broads next to me stood and danced several times, and the people behind us were on their feet a lot too). I’ve never been one for standing and dancing at concerts, and I hate having to stand because the people in front of me stand, because the people in front of them stand. When I saw Rick Springfield a few years ago (and he was delightful!) I had to stand through the whole thing because everyone else was. Ugh.

My cell phone camera can’t do justice to the five diamondvision screens they had behind the stage — at times, they would just show background patterns or images. But for “The Chauffeur”, the actual music video was played on the screens, and during “Careless Memories” they showed a pretty darned funny anime/computer animated video in which the band members, drawn in huge-eyed anime style, battled ninjas and space aliens and Godzilla. Other times, it would be live video footage of the band or the crowd.

I’m glad I brought our two small pairs of binoculars — our seats were great, but it was also fun to be able to zoom in and see everyone up close. Even though the picture is crappy, you can see how “close” we could get with the binoculars.

Nick Rhodes had a nice setup with a Korg, an Apple laptop on a cute little stand, and four keyboards. Plus he had a video camera set up behind him, so that live footage could be put up on the screens. He and Simon passed the camera around to show everyone during the intros and solos near the end of the show. I realized how long it’s been since I’ve been to a big arena concert, because I thought it was cool how all the mikes and instruments were wireless, they could go anywhere on stage and not be hindered by cords.

They truly did get everyone back together for this tour — not only Simon, John, Nick, Roger and Andy, but there was a bonus surprise for real purists — Andy Hamilton is touring with them as the sax player.

Set List
(Reach Up for the) Sunrise – not surprising, as it’s the first single from Astronaut.
Hungry Like the Wolf
Hold Back the Rain – a great album cut from Rio I didn’t expect.
Union of the Snake
Astronaut
Come Undone
I Don’t Want Your Love – I was pleased they didn’t just shove Big Thing under a rug.
Chains
What Happens Tomorrow – they said this will be the next single from Astronaut. One of my faves.
Planet Earth
Tiger Tiger – a nice break for Simon to go change shirts.
The Chauffeur
Ordinary World
Save a Prayer
Nice
Notorious
Is There Something I Should Know?
Careless Memories
Wild Boys

Encore
White Lines
Girls on Film – included band intros and solos
Rio

I have one degree of separation. This is local comedian Rodney Sherwood with Duran Duran — I’ll be going on a fun poker trip with Rodney tomorrow morning. I’m so jealous of him I could just go bite my pillow.